I feel like I´m doing an acceptance speech at the Oscars, terrified of forgetting someone. So, I was inspired to do this post after seeing this post on Kallie´s blog, which was inspired by Samantha´s post, who got these questions from The Fab Files. Phew! Did I get everyone? I think so! Anyway, I love these types of posts, and I hope you do also!
Without further ado, here are my answers to the 50 Questions You Should Ask and Answer!
1. What are your nicknames? What do you prefer to be called? I love nicknames! Both giving and receiving. If people don´t call me by my full name (Sofie), they usually call me Soph, Suffy, Suffela, etc. You can call me anything, as long as its said with love.
2. What books on your shelf are begging to be read? “I have a lot of Nancy Drew books that I have yet to read, not to mention Brian Wilson´s autobiography (+ a few mandatory school books – shh!)
3. How often do you doodle? What do your doodles look like? I´m not sure I would be able to get through my classes without doodling. My notebooks and calendars are always filled with flowers, palm trees, stars, and elephants (as you can see, there´s no real consistent theme).
4. What do you do if you can’t sleep at night? Do you count sheep? Toss and Turn? Try to get up and do something productive? If I can´t sleep, I will (dramatically) toss and turn for a good long while until finally surrendering to the sad circumstances and pulling out a book. It´s okay, I love to read!
5. How many days could you last in solitary confinement? How would you do it? I think I would get very depressed very quickly. I don´t mind being alone, but that´s because I know it´s my choice. If I didn´t have a choice, I think I would feel claustrophobic and lonely. I think 2 days would be my limit, but who knows, maybe I would enjoy the silence and solitude.
6. Do you save old greeting cards and letters? Throw them away? Yes, I save all of them. I have birthday cards from when I turned six. (ALL OF MY BIRTHDAYS ARE REALLY IMPORTANT, OKAY?)
7. Who is the biggest pack rat you know? Let´s just say that I live with him.
8. When making an entrance in to a party, do you make your presence known? Do you slip in and look for someone you know? Do you sneak in quietly and find a safe spot to roost? It depends on the “party” (I´not really a party person). If it´s a birthday, I will do usually do a little round where I greet everybody. If it was a situation with a lot of my contemporaries in an environment where I didn´t feel “safe”, I would probably just sneak in and find someone I know.
9. What is your strongest sense? If you had to give one up, which would it be? Smell, definitely smell. That means less traumatization for my nose whenever my husband (accidently) leaves a piece of chicken in the microwave (for three days).
10. How many times a day do you look at yourself in the mirror? I tend to take a quick glance at myself whenever I pass a mirror, usually to check out my hair situation so I can tame the frizz.
11. What is the strangest thing you believed as a child? I don´t think I´ve ever believed in Santa Claus, but I did believe in the Tooth Fairy for a good while.
12. What is one guilty pleasure you enjoy too much to give up? Coke Zero. It´s a daily battle.
13. Who performs the most random acts of kindness out of everyone you know? I´m very lucky to be surrounded by a lot of kind people.
14. How often do you read the newspaper? Which paper? Which sections? I usually get my (non-fake) news online. I hate the feeling of newspaper paper(?) and getting ink on my fingers. Ew, I´m such a millennial.
15. Which animals scare you most? Why? I have always been f´ing terrified of snakes. TERRIFIED. After reading various stories where snakes have come up through people´s toilets (WTF), I always half expect to find some peripheral neighbor´s python in mine when I lift up the lid.
16. Are you more likely to avoid conflict or engage it head-on? I definitely try to avoid it as much as possible, and pick my battles.
17. What was the most recent compliment you’ve received and savoured? That I didn´t look like I´m about to turn 28! Ha!
18. What is something about yourself that you hope will change, but probably never will? There are many things I would like to change,
19. Are you a creature of habit? Explain. Definitely. I´m very bad with changes.
20. Are you high maintenance? Explain. No, I´m just dramatic.
21. When was the last time you really pushed yourself to your physical limits? Years ago when I thought walking 6+ miles was a good idea for someone with bad bones. While I thought I was going to pass out physically, I felt so satisfied mentally.
22. Do you have a whole lot of acquaintances or just a few very close friends? Why? I have some (semi-close) acquaintances, but they are not people I hang out with outside the environment from which I know them (i.e. university). Other than that, I have a few close friends.
23. Are you more inclined to “build your own empire” or unleash the potential of others? Both would be satisfactory to me. However, I do find myself having some entrepreneurial ideas from time to time. Unfortunately, I´m a Gemini and rarely follow through with it.
24. What’s a strange occurrence you’ve experienced but have never (or rarely) shared with anyone? I can´t think of a rare occurrence – I´ve had plenty of embarrassing occurrences, however!
25. What do you think about more than anything else? I think my thoughts are pretty evenly split between the different areas of my life.
26. What’s something that amazes you? Procreation. Sometimes I´ll look at my grandparents and think, “Wow, the meeting of these two human beings led to the creation of thirteen other human beings.” (three kids and ten grandchildren). Also pizza.
27. Do you prefer that people shoot straight with you or temper their words? Why? This is actually (erhm) a very relevant topic in my life at the moment (erhm), and almost deserves a post of its own. To keep it brief: I have a great deal of admiration for people who are different from myself in that they speak up for themselves and take no BS. In fact, I´m often drawn to this type of person, and this type of person also seems to be drawn to me. They inspire me to want to be like that, too, because they get it off their chest in the moment, whereas my self-opressive diplomacy lead me to carry it around with me for years and develop a mental ulcer. In other words, their way is definitely healthier – for them. However, as I have discovered, it takes a great deal of compromise on my end to partake in a relation where I never know if the person is going to say something that is really hurtful and/or abrasive (to me) in the name of, “Hey, I´m just an honest person”. In other words, I think there is a certain value in being able to serve things in a way that respects the person you are targeting, and makes your message not come across as a totally unexpected aggressive explosion.
28. Where’s your favourite place to take an out-of-town guest? Ugh, I hate myself for being so stereotypically Danish, but probably Tivoli. It´s a truly magical place.
29. What’s one thing you’d rather pay someone to do than do yourself? Why? Do the dishes. I HATE to do the dishes.
30. Do you have a catchphrase? I have several, and I got most of them from my grandmother. I think my favorite is, “Even diarrhea has a limit” – which I like to use when I´ve reached my limit in terms of putting up with certain things from certain people. It´s not very charming, I know, but it´s so fitting!
31. What’s your reaction towards people who are outspoken about their beliefs? What conditions cause you to dislike or, conversely, enjoy talking with them? I think it´s really interesting to hear about people´s beliefs, as long as they don´t try to force them on me.
32. How and where do you prefer to study? Anywhere quiet with soft chairs. Except my couch, because then I´ll fall asleep.
33. What position do you sleep in? Either on my side or on my stomach. I´m a little butterfly.
34. What’s your all-time favourite town or city? Why? I haven´t been to that many places, but I sure do love New York City.
35. What are the top three qualities that draw you to someone new? 1) Empathy, 2) Openness, 3) Humor
36. How has your birth order/characteristics of siblings affected you? Oh yes. I´ m a big sister with a capital B.
37. If you could eliminate one weakness or limitation in your life, what would it be? My various disabilities. I can live with them, but it would surely make things easier.
38. If you could restore one broken relationship, which would it be? I don´t think I have any broken relationships; the ones who have been dissolved have been so for a reason.
39. If you had to change your first name, what would you change it to? I thought about changing my name for a hot minute when I was convinced that one of my three names was bringing me bad luck. When I was little, I wanted to be named Mia so badly. I even bought a hair brush that said “Mia” (maybe “Sofie” was unavailable? I think it was) once. I´ve always loved names that ended in -a, like Hanna or Lena or something along those lines. Maybe Leonora, I don´t know.
40. Do you believe ignorance is bliss? Why or why not? Yes, absolutely. I have a tendency to want to shield people from things that I think will unnecessarily hurt them. However, at the same time I realize that some things you have to know, even if it hurts in the moment.
41. What do you consider unforgivable? It depends on the situation and the person. It also depends on whether they show remorse or not.
42. Have you forgiven yourself for past personal failure? I try not to be too hard on myself for things that have happened in the past, as I have done the best that I could at all times in my life.
43. How difficult is it for you to forgive someone who refuses to apologize? The purpose of forgiving would then be to just move on from it, and I think that would be pretty difficult if the other person did not meet me half-way. They wouldn´t necessarily have to apologize, but there should be some respect for how I feel (and vice versa).
44. Do you hold any convictions that you would be willing to die for? In light of recent events (and, erhm, inaugurations), I think it has become obvious that we as people need to fight for what we believe in, and not stand idly by while our fundamental rights are under threat. To answer the question specifically, I do have a very strong sense of justice, and I´m very lucky to live in a place where this is a value generally shared by others. If they weren´t, I´m not sure I could live here.
45. To what extent do you trust people? Explain. I trust people until they do something that proves unworthy of my trust. Luckily, this rarely happens!
46. In what area of your life are you immature? Sometimes I think my style is a little immature.
47. What was the best news you ever received? I love to hear about good things happening to good people.
48. How difficult is it for you to be honest, even when your words may be hurtful or unpopular? Very hard. I´m a people pleaser; that is until I´ve reached my limit of BS acceptance.
49. When did you immediately click with someone you just met? Why? What was the long term result? Conversely, are you close with anyone now that you really disliked at first? In terms of immediately clicking with someone, I´ve had that happen to me a couple of times in academic settings. Clicking with someone and feeling that immediate bond is almost like falling in love, at least for me. In terms of befriending someone I originally didn´t like, I could definitely see that happening, but it hasn´t yet.
50. When do you find yourself singing? All the time – especially in the shower! I pity my neighbors.